Swingers Hotel Takeover — Overview, FAQ, & Packing Checklist

View our Orientation Video here: Friends of Ellis - Hotel Takeover Orientation

Newbie Quick Guide (Read this first)

It’s like a house party but oh-so-much-better. Community-run, not a giant resort. Expect warmth and fun.
Door open = say hi. An open door invites introductions, not automatic play. Always ask first.
Dress comfy by day, spicy by night. Themes are common; confidence beats costumes.
Privacy matters. No candid photos in common areas. Use designated photo spots only, and always ask consent.
BYOB & snacks. Drink in rooms, party floors, and event spaces (no glass in hallways). Bring finger foods.
Nudity is normal in party areas. Cover up in public hotel spaces (lobby/front desk) if they’re still in use.
Tip hotel staff. They work hard for us; show appreciation.
Remember your Name Badges. You are going to meet hundreds of people. It would be nice if they remembered your name.
TIP: We have some that you can print off. One for each of you then 6 business cards to hand out. This PDF is already aligned to work with the Avery 5390 Sheets. Print them off and get any 3 x 4 ID Name Badge Holder. We have found the ones with clips work well because they can attach to any thing you dress up in and it won’t poke holes.
Download the Name Badges PDF
Buy Avery Blank Name Badges

What is a Swingers Hotel Takeover?

A hotel takeover is one of the most unique lifestyle experiences you can have. Imagine all the fun and energy of a house party — but amped up to an entire hotel. Every hallway, every room, and every dance floor is filled with like-minded people who came for the same reason: to connect, explore, and let loose in a safe, sexy environment.

This isn’t a trip overseas to a giant resort with a staff of hundreds. A takeover is something more personal and more exciting: it’s built by lifestyle people, for lifestyle people. The organizers put in an incredible amount of work and money behind the scenes — negotiating with the hotel, handling insurance, planning entertainment, marketing, decorating, and coordinating every moving part — all so that when you arrive, you just get to enjoy the fun.

So yes, you could call it a “glorified house party.” But that’s the magic: it has all the intimacy, freedom, and sexiness of a private lifestyle party — scaled up to an entire hotel. It’s grassroots, it’s authentic, and it’s unforgettable.

Why it’s cooler than flying out of the country

Easy & affordable: No passports or airfare. Drive in Friday, home by Sunday.
More intimate: Meet regional couples you’ll actually see again.
Personalized fun: Decorate your room, host games, run mini-bars—make it your vibe.
Community energy: Less scripted than a resort, more authentic connection.

Cut the organizers some slack

This isn’t a cruise line—it’s a labor of love. Timelines slip, ice runs happen, and the playlist might loop once. Pitch in, roll with it, and remember: the vibe is what we all bring.

How It Works

Open doors = invitations to introduce yourself. Be friendly, ask before entering, and never assume play.
Room crawls: Walk the floors, check out décor/themes, sample a drink or game, exchange contacts.
Party floors & events: DJs, theme nights, and sometimes hosted games or workshops.

FAQs

What should I wear?
Daytime: robes, swimsuits, lingerie, or comfy casual.

Night: theme/costume or your favorite sexy outfit. Confidence > costume. Bring a cover-up for lobby/front desk.

Can we be nude anywhere?
Nudity is common in party floors, play spaces, and private rooms. Cover up in public hotel areas still in use (lobby, front desk, breakfast room) or anywhere the event rules require.

Can we drink anywhere?
BYOB is standard. Drink in your room, party floors, and takeover events. Use cups (no glass in hallways). Follow the event’s and hotel’s rules.

Do we bring food, or is food provided?
Plan to bring snacks for your room (finger foods, fruit, candy). Organizers may do occasional snack bars or pizza runs, but don’t expect full catering.

Are pictures allowed?
No candid photos in common areas—privacy first. Use designated photo zones or the event photo booth. Always ask before taking or sharing any photo of another guest.

Is there always dancing?
Usually yes—most weekends feature DJs and themed dance parties. Great place to mingle.

Is it expected to tip the hotel staff?
Yes. Housekeeping/front desk often go above and beyond. Tip in cash (daily or at checkout).

Does the hotel staff still clean each day?
Daily housekeeping is often paused for privacy. You can usually request towels/trash pickup. Bring extra towels and trash bags.

Is the hotel staff okay with what’s going on?

Yes — the hotel has agreed to host and the staff know it’s a lifestyle event. They’re professionals and most are super friendly, but remember: they are not here to play. Treat them with respect, tip them well, and don’t cross that line. (In other words: don’t fuck the hotel staff!)

Do I have to decorate my room?
No—but your door/room is your first impression. A little décor, music, or a simple theme makes it easier for people to approach and remember you. See below for ideas

Room Hosting & Décor Ideas (Make your door their “wow”)

Lighting: Blacklights, string lights, LED candles, color bulbs, small dance/laser lights.
Mounting safely: Command Strips, hooks, and PLENTY of painter’s tape. No nails/screws. Don’t hang anything from sprinklers. Don't impede any mechanical systems.
Vibe: Silky throws, plush pillows, fun signage, name tags, and a door whiteboard (“Gone dancing—back at 11”).
Music: Small Bluetooth speaker with a premade playlist. Keep volume neighbor-friendly unless you’re on a designated party floor.
Games:

Suction-cup toy ring toss (prize = candy or a playful dare)
Pineapple/coconut “bowling”
Spin-the-shot (consent-based prompts)
Sexy trivia or “two truths & a lie” icebreaker
Conversation starters: A mini bar menu, a “About Us” card on the door, QR to your event profile.
Toys (optional): A tasteful display is fine; always follow consent and cleanliness. Provide wipes, lube, and lined trash.
Name tags & contact cards: Make it easy to remember each other; our Avery templates are perfect.
Safety & care: Use mattress protectors, spare sheets, and towels; bag trash often; keep walkways clear with gaffer/painter’s tape over cords.

Pro tips
• Use hallway outlets sparingly and tape cords down.
• LED candles over real flame (fire alarms are buzzkills) This means no candles.
• Skip glitter/confetti—they’re cleanup nightmares and can trigger fees.

Hosting Etiquette (Consent is sexy)

Ask before entering even if the door’s open.
Ask before touching—verbal consent every time.
No means no; “maybe later” also means not now.
Clean as you go—tie trash, swap sheets, wipe surfaces.
Be a good neighbor—mind volume and hallway crowding.

Printable Packing Checklist

Download the Checklist PDF

(Copy/paste to print, or keep as a checklist.)

Essentials

IDs, event tickets/wristbands
Cash for tips, raffles & incidentals
Meds, contact lenses, chargers, toiletries
Robe/cover-up for lobby/front desk
Theme outfits / lingerie / comfy daywear
Shoes (sexy + sensible)

Food & Drink (BYOB)

Beverages + mixers (no glass in hallways)
Ice chest/cooler & ice packs
Cups, napkins, straws, bottle opener
Finger foods (fruit, cheese, crackers, candy)
Water bottles / gallon jug

Décor & Hosting

Blacklights / color bulbs / string lights
Command Strips & hooks
PLENTY of painter’s tape (cords & décor)
Small Bluetooth speaker (playlist ready)
Door décor/signage + whiteboard/markers
Name tags & contact cards (Avery printables)
Tablecloth (bedsheet over ironing board = instant table)
Conversation/game props (ring toss, trivia, etc.)
Massage oil/lotion & clean hand towels
Small trash bags & extra liners
Party theme outfits
Makeup
A good hairdryer

Tech & Power

Speaker
Phone Chargers
Extension cords & power strips
Gaffer/painter’s tape to secure cables
Extra batteries / portable power bank

Play & Safety (optional but recommended)

Condoms/dental dams & multiple lubes
Toy cleaner / disinfecting wipes
Bed/mattress protector & extra sheets
Dark towels / microfiber cloths
Gloves / puppy pads (if you use them)
Aftercare items (water, blanket, snacks)

Comfort & Hygiene

Extra towels & washcloths
Paper plates / plastic utensils
Breath mints / gum
Scented wax/plug-in (avoid open flame) That means, no candles
Hand soap & sanitizer
Toiletries kit

Logistics

Door stop
Hand truck/dolly (luggage carts vanish fast)
Extra hangers
Small folding table(s)
Laundry bag & zip bags (wet/delicate items)

Nice-to-Haves

Robes & slippers for both of you
Simple photo booth props (use only in designated photo zones)
Mini first-aid kit (bandages, pain reliever)
Portable fan (rooms get warm)
Earplugs/eye mask (for actual sleep)

Final Thought

A hotel takeover is community magic: part party, part playground, all connection. Dress how you like, bring a generous spirit, respect privacy and consent—and help make the weekend unforgettable for everyone.