Welcome to Friends of Ellis —
Spokane’s Swingers Lifestyle community for couples and single women ready to explore, connect, and have fun.
Since 2018, we’ve built a welcoming, respectful space where 18+ adults can meet new people, attend incredible events, and experience the Lifestyle without pressure or judgment.
The website is for 18+ adults. All in person events are 21+ due to alcohol being present.
Curious what we are about? Check out our style.
Who Is Ellis?
“Ellis” is a clever nod to L.S. — the LifeStyle.
If you’re a Friend of Ellis, you’re in the circle.
What We Do
Friends of Ellis brings the Inland Northwest together through:
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Meet & Greets
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Themed Parties
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Hotel Takeovers
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Campouts and outdoor events
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Workshops, education, and safety guides
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Private members-only gatherings
Every event is designed to help you connect at your comfort level, whether you’re dipping your toes in for the first time or you’ve been Swinging for years.
Who Can Join?
We welcome Couples and Single Women.
(We are not accepting Single Male memberships at this time.)
All in person events are 21+ and focused on consent, communication, and community.
Why Create a Free Profile?
Your free profile unlocks everything:
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Access to events, parties, and meetups
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Member pricing and discounted tickets
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“Who’s Going” lists for every event
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Our private community feed
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Flirt and connect with other members
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Access to our Discord mobile chat
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Event reminders, updates, and exclusives
Most people join because they want connection — and this is the easiest, safest way to meet like-minded people in the lifestyle.
New to Swinging? Start Here.
If you’re curious, nervous, or exploring for the first time, we’ve built beginner-friendly guides that walk you through everything from the basics to your first event.
Learn :
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What is “The Lifestyle”?
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How to Start Swinging
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Consent & Etiquette
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Your First Meet & Greet
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How to Talk With Your Partner
Take your time. Read. Learn. Then jump in when you’re ready:
How to Start Swinging with "What is the Lifestyle".
Consent, Etiquette, and Communication with "Let's Swing".
What to Expect at Your First Event with "We're Swinging!".
Hotel Takeovers
Our hotel takeovers are the largest, most unforgettable events we host.
If you’re attending one, make sure you read the Hotel Takeover Guide for tips, tricks, and checklists.
Check out the Hotel Takeover Guide
Stay Connected
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