That freedom works best when people communicate clearly, respect boundaries, stay aware of the people around them, and speak up when something does not feel right.
Choose what you need below.
BEFORE YOU PLAY
A practical swinger's guide to communication before, during, and after play.
Talk about boundaries, protection, marks, relationship agreements, rejection, changing your mind, and staying connected once play begins.
RULES & COMMUNITY STANDARDS
Our shared standards for consent, boundaries, respectful conduct, privacy, alcohol, play spaces, safety, reporting, enforcement, and community responsibility.
These standards help us address concerns consistently while leaving room for context, conversation, and human judgment.
NEED TO TALK?
Something happen to you? See something that concerns you? Unsure about an interaction? Want to ask how a rule applies?
You do not need to confront someone first, prove misconduct, or know exactly what you want FoE to do before talking with us.
CONSENT & SAFETY AT FoE
FoE is not trying to remove the spontaneity from swinging. We are trying to remove the assumptions that cause people to get hurt.
Speak. Listen. Pay attention. Before, during and after.
Communicate what you need. Respect what other people need. Stay connected enough to notice when something changes. If something goes wrong, speak up. If someone speaks to you, listen.
Your responsibility to communicate does not eliminate someone else's responsibility to listen, notice, and check in.
Freedom works when we communicate.
SOMETHING HAPPENING RIGHT NOW?
If you are at an FoE event and something feels wrong, find any FoE Admin.
You do not need to find the "right" person or wait until the event is over.
The sooner we know, the more we may be able to do. We may be able to check in, clarify what happened, stop behavior, separate people, address a concern, or help someone get the support they need.
THE SIMPLE VERSION
Talk before you play.
Stay connected while you play.
Respect boundaries.
Accept rejection.
Protect people's privacy.
Speak up when something changes.
Listen when someone speaks up.
Help each other when something feels wrong.
Be the kind of person other people are glad showed up.
